Go – Get Your Golden Eggs…
A farmer and his wife were living on small poultry farm which consists of a very few chicks and geese. Every morning they used to collect eggs to sell in the tiny hilly village of northern India.
One especially blessed night of Sharad Purnima – they prepared a sweet payasam (rice-kheer) and placed it under sky for special rays of moon to add medicinal value to the dish as part of their old tradition. But one of geese finished that sweet dish during very early next morning and she surprisingly gave a golden egg to astonish the farmer couple. Now, that blessed hen started giving one golden egg every morning. The amazed farmer coupled thanked God for giving them a live factory to produce one golden egg every day. They started expecting more from that hen. But she was able to give only one golden egg a day. Both first tried pleasing the goose and then torturing her to get more golden eggs. But were getting only one egg every day. Out of their frustration and greed, they made that special goose killed and also daily supply of golden egg.
Important components in this Story –
- What is produced (the Golden Egg) 2. by the production asset (the Goose)
Farmer’s Focus was only on getting the Golden Egg and Their Mistake was neglecting the Goose.
Moral of the Story: If one adopts a pattern of life that focuses only on golden eggs and neglects the goose, one will soon be without the asset that produces golden eggs…… And on the other hand, if he/she only cares of the goose with no aim towards the golden eggs, soon won’t have the wherewithal (means) to feed oneself or the goose.
Effectiveness lies in the balance – P / PC Balance.
Excessive focus on P (Production/Desired Results) may ruined health, worn-out machines, depleted bank accounts, and broken relations. Too much focus on PC (Production capability – the ability or asset that produces the golden egg) is like a person endlessly going to school, never producing and living on other people’s golden eggs – the eternal student syndrome.
We mainly deal with 3 kinds of Assets viz. Physical (Car, Bike, AC etc.), Financial (Investments) and Human (Customers and Employees).
If we only focus on golden egg – the more profits – and ignore servicing and taking care of our esteemed customers/employees, ignored their concerns etc…we will be out of business. We are killing our goose who has the capacity to produce golden egg for us.
Life is all about having Golden Egg by rightly feeding to the Goose. To get golden egg from anything or any relationship – feed the goose aptly and effectively.
- Desired Happiness in Married Life (Golden Egg) will automatically flow when we give due respect, care and love to our spouse (Goose).
- Appreciation and Appraisals (Golden Egg) will bestow upon an employee when he/she gives due importance to work-n-workmates (Goose).
- Enjoyment (Golden Egg) will be in abundance when we will exercise regularly and make our body (Goose) fit-n-healthy.
- A Student’s Mark-Sheet (desired Golden Egg) will be high on digits when he will sincerely devote his time (Goose) in attending lectures and preparing topics.
The following may be few suggestions to feed the goose and get the desired outcome from every personal or professional relations by Build strong Emotional Bank Account and continuously depositing in that instead of withdrawal. Deposit will increase the Trust and ease the communication.
- Understand the Individual
The essential point is to understand others deeply as Individuals, set the expectations accordingly and then treat them in terms of that understanding. Or in simple words, Treat others as you like be Treated by them.
- Attending to the Little Things
People are very tender, very sensitive inside. I don’t believe age or experience makes much difference. In relationships, the little things are the big things. The little kindnesses and courtesies are importantly big deposits in your emotional account. Small discourtesies, little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals.
- Keeping Commitments
Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit; breaking one is a major withdrawal. In fact, there’s probably not a more massive withdrawal than to make a promise that’s important to someone and then not to come through.
People tend to build their hopes around promises…so adopt a philosophy of never making a promise we can’t keep.
- Clarifying Expectations
Whenever you come into a new situation, it’s so important to get all the expectations out on the table. People will begin to judge each other through those expectations. And if they feel like their basic expectations have been violated, the reserve of trust is diminished. Clarifying expectations sometimes takes a great deal of courage.
We create many negative situations by simply assuming that our expectations are self-evident and that they are clearly understood and shared by other people.
- Showing Personal Integrity
Integrity is the inner sense of “wholeness” deriving from qualities such as honesty and consistency of character. Integrity is, conforming reality to our words. Personal Integrity generates trust and is the basis of many different kinds of deposits.
As such, one may judge that Others have integrity to the extent that they act according to the values, beliefs, and principles, they claim to hold.
- The Laws of Love and the Laws of Life
We make a huge deposit in our Emotional Bank Account by Loving without conditions, without strings. Our feeling of Love will be experienced by others in our gesture, treatment, co-operation, contribution, communication and will help others to feel secure and safe.
Having wonderful communication based on Trust will help us Enjoying our relations…